His love is faithful

Day 22...Love is faithful

Today's dare: Love is a choice, not a feeling.  It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction.  Choose today to be committed to you love even if your spouse has lost of of their interest in receiving it.  Say to them today in words similar to these, "I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return."

OK, that message is for people in committed relationships only, but for those of you are are dating, let me give you a piece of advice...Loving someone that doesn't love you back doesn't turn out well. 

I know you have strong feelings for him.  I know you think about him day and night, but you can't make him love you.  You can't make him have the same feelings you do.  Don't settle, if you are not a priority of his then maybe its time to cut ties. I know that's harsh and hard to hear but the person that you marry needs to make you one of his top priorities.  He needs to be as much in love with you as you are to him. He needs to put as much if not more effort into the relationship than you do.  You need to feel honored and cherished.  He needs to be leading the relationship, not you dragging him along behind.     

Let me repeat myself...Don't settle.  Don't feel pressured to get married or to do anything that you might regret later.  Don't let your feelings for him cloud your judgement.  Believe me I know how easy it is to give into that need and I know you think in the back of your mind that if you give in he will eventually love you, but that's not how it works.  I don't want to hate on the male race, but their minds don't work the same as ours.  Just because you give into temptation does not mean that his feelings for you are going to change. 

Remember the first line of the dare, "Love is a choice not a feeling."  I know you have butterflies when you think of him.  I know you get goosebumps when you say his name, but that will eventually fade and if you've settled for someone that doesn't make you a priority, if you've settled for someone that doesn't honor and cherish you, if you've settled for someone that only puts in minimal effort you won't have much to go on for the rest of your life.

You need to be with someone that makes regular deposits into your love bank, whether that's with words or gifts or time or touch or actions.  Never settle for anything less then exactly what you need.