Take a moment and think back to your early stages of your relationship. For some that maybe just recently and others it might be several years, but think back to those things that attracted you to your partner. Remember those things you fell in love with, and put those characteristics on the list. Make the list of the positive attributes first, take as much time as needed because depending on your relationship the negative attributes might come very easy.Today's Dare: For today's dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing positive things about your spouse. The do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheet in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
I'm sure after hearing about your irritating habits, you are probably ready to fire back, but use this time to focus on those things that are true, honorable and good. Those are the things that keep a relationship headed in the right direction. It's when we start spending to much time focusing on the negative that's when marriages fall apart. We start saying things like, "He's not the same man I married." or "My wife is so selfish." or even worse, "I think I married the wrong person."
Sadly we all make mistakes. We all say things we shouldn't and we hurt people that we love. It's much easier to dwell on past hurts then focus on today's victories.
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