Love is not jealous

Day 8...Love is not jealous

Today's dare: Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy.  To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it.  Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed. 

I struggle with jealousy.  As someone with the love language of Quality Time, I get antsy when I feel like my quality time is being given to other people or things.  As I thought about what to write today, I started thinking about "My time".  First of all it's not my time anyway, it's my partners time, they decide what to do with it.  Secondly, certainly my partner cherishes the time we spend together just as much as I do, so it's doubtful that they are putting me second to whatever it is that they are doing and if they are I would be silly to think that there is not a good reason for their choosing. 

But as I continued to think about "My time", I read this in my devotional:

Come away with Me for a while.  The world, with it nonstop demands, can be put on hold.  Most people put Me on hold, rationalizing that someday they will find time to focus on Me.  But the longer people push Me into the background of their lives, the harder it is for them to find Me.

I have called you to follow Me on a solitary path, making time alone with Me your highest priority and deepest joy.  It is a pathway largely unappreciated and often despised.   However, you have chosen the better thing, which will never be taken away from you.  Moreover, as you walk close to Me, I can bless others through you. 

His love language is Quality Time as well.  He gets just as antsy as I do when His time with us is shortened because we are busying ourselves with other things.  Of course we all have good reasons.  Its our time, we choose how to use it, but if we value our relationship with Him as much as we do our earthly relationships we would certainly make more time for Him.  

As we reflect on our illegitimate jealousy for other people or things, let us also reflect on His legitimate jealousy towards us.