His love is not rude

Day 5...Love is not rude

Today's dare: Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause his or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you.  You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior.  This is from their perspective only.

 Wow that's a tough one.  I bet you could rattle off more then three things that your partner does that irritates you and at the same time be completely shocked when they do the same to you. 

I was trying to decide what I would say my most irritating qualities were and sadly I came up with several.

1. I'm messy...after having kids I've decided that having a spotless house is just not necessary
2. I don't like to fold laundry...if it was up to me, my laundry would be piled nicely in a chair
3. I don't make my bed...actually my bed gets made once a week, right after I wash the sheets
4. I probably talk too much...at least according to the opinion of someone I once knew
5. I'm emotional...I cry at odd moments
6. I'm opinionated 

Of course there maybe someone out there that finds those qualities attractive or at least liveable, so maybe those are some of my best qualities and I think that's what today's dare is about.  Those things that your partner may find annoying or irritating are just their opinion.  You can do what you want with it and if you do the right thing your relationship will probably grow closer.  If you decide that you don't want to change well that's your right.  But remember the second part of the dare...when they tell you the qualities that they don't like, don't justify or attack.  Sometimes just getting it out into the open will help ease the tension in the house.