His love is thoughtful

Day 4...Love is thoughtful

Today's dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business day.  Have no other agenda other then asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.  

When I read this chapter I was reminded of a conversation that I was recently reminded of.  Apparently many years ago, I told a male friend of mine that men were oblivious to the things women wanted and the best way to get their attention was to wave a sign in their face and maybe then they will realize what it is that you want.  That was my way of trying to get him to read between the lines and of course it backfired, but that's the difference between men and women.  Women need men to read between the lines and men need women to spell their needs out for them.

Generally women are more thoughtful then men.  Don't get me wrong men can be thoughtful, but in general women are more thoughtful then men.  Women are spider-webbers and men are compartment thinkers.  Women can think all kinds of thoughts all at one time, whereas men tend to think linearly, and it's great that men think linearly because that's what makes them the better bread winner.  They can go to work everyday and hone in on their work and not be encumbered by thoughts of dinner or kids or the laundry. 

 ¹⁸ The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

 Linear thinkers need spider-webbers.  Spider-webbers need linear thinkers but we must learn how to speak the others language.

Speaking as a spider-webber, we need the linear thinkers in our lives to take a moment and put their focus on us.  Women crave closeness.  Women need their partners to listen to them spider-web.  Don't try to fix or give advice, just listen.  I promise she will think the world of you if you give her just a few minutes to download her day. 

I'm not a linear thinker but I've gained some knowledge from my experience with them and I think that men need to know how much you value their role as the head of the relationship and especially their role as bread-winner.  Women tend to be the cheerleaders in their relationships and men continue to need that encouragement long after wedding bells have rung.  

Of course you know your partner better then I do, so use today's dare to give you an opportunity to find out what they might need from you.